Boundaries in the Bedroom

Do you think you should set certain boundaries before entering into a relationship? Moreso, do you think there should be boundaries set for the bedroom? For instance, you and your mate agree to have sex on certain days or you decide if you want to use sex toys. I think setting boundaries in the bedroom is very important, that way neither partner would be surprised or upset over the decision you both agree on. You are also being upfront and honest with your mate about your intentions and what you expect to happen behind closed doors.

I have known couples to have set boundaries in the bedroom, but have strayed away from those boundaries. Sometimes the outcome was good and other times the outcome was not so good. One couple decided to have a threesome when before they both agreed that there was no way they would allow another person in their bedroom. Well the outcome will shock you! They actually had a great time and agree now to have threesomes once a month with a person of their choosing. But what if there was a different outcome? Maybe the couple decided not to try another threesome or it could have possibly been so bad as to split the couples apart.

Although setting boundaries in the bedroom is not necessary, it should be discussed on occasion so no one will be caught by surprise, or even discombobulated. Setting boundaries allows others to decide if what you are proposing to happen in the bedroom is ok with them and if they want to go ahead and continue with the sex act. Your actions in the bedroom has a huge determination on how the rest of your relationship will go. Whether it will move forward or stay at a stand still. So compromise on whats good for you and your partner during your bedroom sexual encounters, and above all else have fun doing it!

Upon Penetration

Before the actual act of lovemaking begins, you should indulge your mate with "foreplay". Foreplay is a very important part of getting your mate in the mood before the actual act of sex itself. Here are some different kinds of foreplay that you can use that can bring your mate to ecstasy before the actual act of penetration.

Foreplay Ideas For Men: Ladies undress in front of him so he can see your "bod". Allow him to undress you and strip you nude. Allow him to gaze for at least a minute or two. If you are using items during foreplay (such as oils or creams), allow him to apply them to your body, slowly and sensually. Once these items have been applied let him lick them off with precision and patience. Kiss her lips and caress her breasts, inner thighs and genitalia massaging them gently. To add some spice to this you can be blindfolded and/or shackled to the bed. (BONDAGE) Once he has you on the bed, he must perform ORAL SEX! This can be done as long as you both like.

Foreplay Ideas For Women: Ladies come into the room with a perfectly fitting negligee on or with nothing on at all. Gently undress him to view his sexy "bod". Grab him gently and begin to kiss him on his lips and neck. Once he has gotten slightly aroused, get down on your knees and proceed with the best ORAL SEX he has ever had. If his penis is long enough, don't forget to stroke the shaft while performing ORAL SEX!

SO SET A DATE AND MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Monogamy

How important is being in a monogamous relationship to you? Have you always been in a monogamous relationship or have you participated in a threesome or foursome before? According to the USA Today young couples age 18-25 don't agree on monogamous relationships. Do you thinks it's because they are still looking for that special someone, or just not ready to settle down? I can imagine that couples ages 30-45 wants to be in a monogamous relationship because they have done a lot of so called "exploring" and are ready to settle down. Monogamy is not a relationhip that should be taken for granted. Both parties should really be in agreement on this relationship because this is usually a relationship where you can potentially spend the rest of your life with this person. I believe in being in a monogamous relationship. I think it's great to be in a relationship with one person that has your best interests at heart and will be there for you when times are hard and for when times are easy.
Another great thing about being in a monogamous relationship is not having to worry about contracting STDs or other unhealthy or harmful conditions that you may contract from having multiple partners. Also to say that you are in a relationship with the "ONE" that you love is a great feeling to have. Every person deserves to be happy and if deciding to be monogamous is for you or having multiple partners makes you happy then stand by your decision. Just remember that there are always consequences for any action you take! Be careful and be smart concerning any decisions you make!

Valentine Love Tips for the Guys

Does she love me, does she love me not? Is this the question you are looking to have answered on Valentines Day? Should this day be any different from any other? I think so! When you are in love and someone is in love with you, why not take a “Special Day” to express how you feel? This is a day to bring out all the stops for your mate, showering her with roses, candy, and gifts to show appreciation for that special someone.

Here are some tips you can do for your mate for Valentines Day:
Nice dinner and a movie
Beautiful Flowers with Card
Chocolate Dipped Strawberries
Personalized Gifts
Spa Gifts
Gift Baskets
Beautiful Jewelry

After all the festivities of the day, run them a warm bath with rose petals, open up a glass of wine and end the night with some great lovemaking.

Love vs Lust

Would you rather be in love or in lust? Is one better than the other? It is imperative that you know the difference, so you can establish what your true feeling are towards someone that you like or may be interested in. According to Dictionary.com, love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Also, a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. To know that one is loved or in love is a great feeling to have. I do believe that everyone needs love in their lives. It gives you a satisfaction that someone or something cares about you and would do just about anything to make you happy. As the saying goes "love conquers all," I do believe this is a true statement. When you are in love nothing else really matters.
Lust on the other hand is something totally different. Lust gives you a feeling of having a "overmastering desire" to want something or someone in a different way than love. With the feeling of lust, you won't necessarily have a love for that someone, just a desire to want them intensely. There are some instances where lust wins over love where a person has a sexual desire for another. They don't have the "love" feeling for that person just the want to be with them in a sexual manner.
A person has a choice as to whether they love a person or be in lust with a person. As long as you are open and honest with yourself and others no one will get disappointed and nothing will be misintepreted for being something that its not. It is a bad feeling to have someone think that you love them and you don't see them in that manner, you only have a sexual desire (lust) to be with them and nothing further. As long as you are honest no one's feeling will be hurt.

Why is Sex important?

Why is it that "SEX" is the number one searched item on the internet? It's because people want to know what, why, and how it enhances our lives. We want to know why is it so important, and what can it do for us as individuals. Sex to me is a combination of things. It is an experience (which should be satisfying), a coming together of two individuals (normally) to satisfy a natural urge within us. According to Dictionary.com sex is the act in which to engage in sexual intercourse. Sex is what keeps the human population in existence. It provides you with pleasure and pain that is sometimes so satisfying words can not express your feelings. One thing is for sure, sex won't go away as long as humans are on the Earth.

Never Settle

There is one thing that I do know, and that is to never settle! Never settle for someone that is not treating you the way you want to be treated mentally, spiritually, nor sexually. The saying goes "There is someone out there for everyone." I truly believe this. If at first you don't find true love, you should never give up and give in to just anyone. If you just settle you may be missing out on the one person that is truly your soul mate. Give God the opportunity to seek that special person out! NEVER SETTLE!!